Yesterday in the 10 minutes or so that I actually caught of the Relief Society lesson, they were talking about raising children in the gospel. Many of the ladies in my ward are more seasoned (aka...way older than me...like my grandma's age) mothers than I am. They were talking about how fast kids grow up and about how they wished they could have some of those moments back.
The teacher read a poem about a mother who was often busy and told her child, "In a minute..." or "Maybe later..." when the child requested the mom to play or help or whatever. Later in life, the mother wished she would have done those things because the child no longer wanted her to. Her once "too busy" hands now had much more time. She wished that she would have played those games and read that one more story or rocked the baby for another minute or whatever.
One lady said (to the younger moms), "Forget about the laundry, the cleaning, and dinner...just hold that baby."
I wanted to say, "Well, what are you supposed to do then, make your family starve and wear dirty clothes and live in a dirty house? Who is going to do those things for you?" I can't even keep up with all that when I'm trying, so if I completely ignored those things, it would be really out of control.
Anyway, I felt completely guilty because honestly right now, I relish the moment when both kids are actually asleep. My patience and sanity are wearing very thin right now, and sometimes I feel like I'm lucky if I just survive the day.
I want to be more proactive in my mothering. I want to have the desire to read one more story or play one more game or hold my baby for a minute longer, but I usually don't right now. I want them to sleep for one more hour or be quiet for one more minute. Sometimes I really feel like I'm going to lose it.
But I also don't want to miss out on their childhoods. I want to create memories with them that aren't of screaming and whining and making messes. So how do you do it? How do you keep the chores under control and have enough time/patience/energy to make those memories and keep your sanity? Especially while trying to do it on less than 4 hours of sleep a night. Because I'd really like to know.